When
reflecting on stressors, poverty and my two little cousins came to mind. To make a long story short, my aunt met
their dad while she was in her first semester of college in which she had a
scholarship. She dropped out of
college and got pregnant. Their dad
disappeared for a while when my cousin Josh was born. My mom and grandparents raised Josh the first couple of
years. During this time, my aunt
met up with the dad and got pregnant again. This time after having my little cousin, Talesha, my aunt
took them and went to live with the dad.
During this time, neither parent had a steady job, both were drinking
and into drugs, and lived in an unsafe shack. In fact they had to move out because the building was
condemned. The more my family
tried to reach out and help, the further they pushed us away. Other stressors kicked in such as
exposure to alcohol, drugs, and violence.
The dad was always in trouble with the law and had a violent
temper. My aunt tried to separate
from him. My aunt and cousins had
to go into hiding until law enforcement found and arrested him on unrelated
charges. He has spent numerous
years in jail, the majority of the children’s lives. He is out now but they do not communicate with him. As of right now, my cousins are both in
their 20s. Josh just obtained his
GED and was accepted into the local community college. Talesha just received financial aid to
attend the community college.
Josh
and Talesha had to overcome a lot in their childhood, especially poverty. Poverty hindered their
development. For example, they did
not always receive the necessary nutrition, which affects their cognitive and
physical development. They did not
live in the safest of environments, which affected their psychology. They did not development proper secure
attachments to either parent. They
are closest with their mother. In
fact, they are both living at home.
Granted this has not always been the case. Both moved out at 18 thinking they knew it all. They started following in their
parents’ footsteps and realized this was not the path they should take. They realized in order to get anywhere
in life, they need a decent education.
Thankfully they are both in community college working on obtaining their
2-year degree. Maybe they can
break the poverty cycle. My family
has always tried to help them.
Sometimes it was accepted, but most of the time it was not. We were always, and still are, there
for them and thankfully they know that.
I am just glad they are turning their lives around.
When
thinking of a country that has a special affinity, I immediately thought of
Aruba. This is where my husband
and I honeymooned in 2005. We fell
in love with the island and cannot wait to go back. When reflecting on our trip, the children on this Caribbean
island do not have the same stressors as one would think. Aruba lies outside of the where
hurricanes hit so children do not have to suffer through that natural
disaster. Due to tourism, it is
one of the more well off countries in the Caribbean. I kept looking to find the percentage of families at or
below the poverty line, however, I could not find a statistic. I remember when we were there and
exploring driving on a lot of dirt roads and seeing hut type houses. Since they are part of the Dutch
Antilles, they are under Dutch government and have an education system based of
the Netherland system. I think the
biggest stressor these children see is drug smuggling activity. They are exposed to drugs and put in
the danger of being kidnapped and/or killed if something goes wrong. However, you do not hear of the drug
violence in Aruba like you do in nearby Venezuela so they must be doing
something right to protect their citizens. Their motto is “One Happy Island” and that it is. Everyone is very friendly and willing
to help. I do like how the island
has set itself up for tourism.
Part of the island, the “west coast” is where all the resorts and hotels
are located. The rest of the
island is for the people of Aruba.
They do have an oil refinery and I can speak from first hand experience
you would never know it existed.
The water and air around it are clear and you cannot hear a lot of noise
from it either. They have safe
drinking water. Since they do not
have access to fresh water on the island, they have to desalinate the
seawater. In 2005, it was the 2nd
purest water in the world behind Kuwait.
The water was amazing. I
learned a lot on our trip. Also, Arubans
observe siestas everyday. The
island shuts down from 12-2 and everyone goes home to take a nap and spend time
with his or her family. I love
this and can see why this would make it “one happy island.” I believe this has the greatest impact
to reduce the stressors on children’s development. Everyone is rested and spends time together. I think our country could take a page
out of their book and observe siestas too. What a difference a nap and family time would make!